Comments on: The Personal Ad that isn’t one

By: Wanted – a hunka hunka burnin’ love « The Secret Life Of Worm Hill

Wanted – a hunka hunka burnin’ love « The Secret Life Of Worm Hill — Thu, 12 Feb 2009 00:15:15 +0000

[...] a little while ago now I wrote a personal ad that wasn’t one and created a sumptuous dilemma for me to ponder upon, whereby I got to choose my right man. So my [...]

By: Questions… Difficult Questions… « The Secret Life Of Worm Hill

Questions… Difficult Questions… « The Secret Life Of Worm Hill — Mon, 29 Dec 2008 22:37:43 +0000

[...] Difficult Questions… Posted on December 29, 2008 by Wormy Following on from my personal ad that wasn’t, I have some questions in my mind/ heart that are bugging [...]

By: Wormy

Wormy — Tue, 23 Dec 2008 22:42:45 +0000

Yup – previous list was veeeeeerrrrrry long. Everyone tells me I’m way too fussy. I don’t think so, of course, as I see nothing wrong in wanting to meet an equal! Who can connect emotionally, physically, spiritually and mentally with me. I remain determined in my search… These last two days I’ve taken the chance to do some meditating and I’m feeling a whole lot more grounded about stuff- without it Idon’t think I would have done the whole “well hello Ms Anger” thing. It’s coming… the time is nearly right for me to ponder my sumptuous dilemma.

By: smlacyart

smlacyart — Tue, 23 Dec 2008 22:04:50 +0000

Ackkkk!
Been there! Oh my gosh. After the emotionally abusive jerk who calls himself a man left me two years ago, I did not even know what do with myself.
I hid underneath a blanket mostly. And walked, all the time. Everywhere. I used to disappear for hours at a time.
I became convinced that no one would ever want to be with me because I’m chronically ill.
I made myself a personal ad of what I wanted. It was HUGE. I mean it was like, a page and a half of stuff. And I agonized over this list, and compared every guy I met to it, and none of them ever fit.
One day, I got so angry at the male population, I stopped caring. And decided that I was going to be alone forever, and never marry or anything, and so THERE! Take that!
Two weeks later, my current boy friend popped into my life. That was over 2 years ago, and even during our bad times, I’ve never been happier.
There is someone out there for you, just waiting to pop out and make your life magical. The universe just likes to spring it on you when you’re not looking. (It took me a month to realize I’d fallen in love.)
And yay for all of your big yummy realizations! They’re so true, and even gave me a bit of “Duh!” moment

By: Wormy

Wormy — Mon, 22 Dec 2008 20:01:41 +0000

@JoVE – that’s a really good point, and one I hadn’t thought about. You’re right – it can create a lot a stress on the relationship. Seeing it written down makes it seem very obvious but it had absolutely not occured to me before. Thank you Thank you also for the reassurance that there is a special someone out there. I needed that.

By: JoVE

JoVE — Mon, 22 Dec 2008 16:47:25 +0000

Major insight. Hurray. And I think there is also a tendency to keep looking to the future and not appreciating the present. So when in a relationship, we worry about where it is going and then don’t fully enjoy where it is. Worth thinking about. Might reduce the stress on the relationship once you meet that person (who is out there).